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My mum had azheimers yet was not diagnosed early enough..she suffered for a long time before she was eventually allowed to have a memory test.Her memory loss during...
My late wife suffered from Alzheimer’s. Fortunately she was well treated in both hospital and the care home. My experience taught me that it is the carers who suffer...
This is not easy. Over ten years ago, I feared that I had mental problems of one kind or another. I was most concerned about my memory becoming worse over time; as bad...
Being an ex Army officer my wife was diagnosed with Ahlzimers 4/1/2 years ago. I am her sole carer. I feel that it is wrong that we have to sell our home if she needs...
My Mother was suffering from cognitive decline for years before she was finally diagnosed with vascular dementia after being sectioned and hospitalised in 2006. She...
with diagnosis, there is help and benefits that cant be accessed if dont have diagnosis. he has vascular dementia so meds arent an issue but you need an early...
My husband has got steadily worse since just before...
My mum was diagnosed in 2017. It took me roughly 2 years though as I had to fight to get my mum seen by her GP. Eventually she had a memory test and that led to her...
Hi have been involved with Alzheimer's / Dementia...
Mum coped with Dad’s declining awareness for eight...
My wife developed dementia over 5 years and finally went into a care home to be looked after by professionals. It destroyed both our lives, going from an ordinary...
It has taken 3 years for my husband John to be...
My mum had azheimers yet was not diagnosed early enough..she suffered for a long time before she was eventually allowed to have a memory test.Her memory loss during this time was evident as my dad also had Alzheimers so we knew what the signs were,yet this still made no difference to an early diagnosis.After she was diagnosed she was put on medication which really made no difference although it was altered many times she never coped well when it was increased so we had to watch our mum slowly disappear from us everyday.Mum was a strong independent woman before alzheimers and it took her ability to do anything for herself although she insisted on living alone.I tried numerous times to get help for her,just someone to visit and see how she was,but there was no one who would help,so it was phone calls and us who cared for her,she had falls which led to her being in hospital and sadly after the last one which was a serious one she never returned back to us.She died in hospital alone on 11th Feburary. This illness takes loved ones from us day by day..little by little with them suffering inside and unable to explain to us why they feel the way they do..confused,angry,upset and alone.I would like to see anyone with memory loss tested as soon as possible and if it is not Alzheimers then at least they would know,leaving someone suffering with memory issues is cruel and un-neccesary today,as it is a simple test that should be made avaliable to everyone who needs it.
Sarah
My late wife suffered from Alzheimer’s. Fortunately she was well treated in both hospital and the care home. My experience taught me that it is the carers who suffer and tend to be ignored, they too require help and support. By all means continue to find a cure, but don’t forget spouses and families suffer as well .
Bill
This is not easy. Over ten years ago, I feared that I had mental problems of one kind or another. I was most concerned about my memory becoming worse over time; as bad as it was, I was fearful that my professional career was going to have to cease due to declining memory and, thus, the loss of my employment. The work I was engaged in at that time was very multi-faceted and pressured. I was a Senior Environmental officer. That role included duties not dissimilar to the Police and carried out duties, adhering to laws, legislation, and the ever-present likelihood of violence. The intricacies most people do not correlate. So, the result of my scan for memory loss was diagnosed as ‘short-term memory loss.’ No more was said or done about that condition at the time. Did I require further monitoring over time? Surely, when a person exhibits problems of this nature, they should have considered for ‘watchful waiting’ and to have been reviewed over a period. At the start, I was very naive and inexperienced in these matters, but having Alzheimer's is a very, very fast learning curve. Should I have been recalled at some future dates for reassessment due to the condition to ascertain if it was getting worse? In retrospect, yes. This only becomes obvious at a later stage. Fast forward to 2022, my memory was again in further decline, my personal moods were getting more difficult and disturbing. My wife was seeing various personality changes in me and was fearful for my future mental health and well-being. After seeing my GP, who, I have to say, was useless and confirmed that my knowledge of mental health was better than his. By degree, I am a Psychology Post Graduate. After further questions were asked by me regarding the current situation, I was recalled for further tests and scans. From the results of the first set of scans my next appointment, I felt much more uneasy about the results relayed to me by my psychiatrist, who advised that a ballpark figure regarding my life was about two years. I am aware that there is no one, consultant, or other (that I am aware of) that a patient can turn to for clarification. Considering that this is always a life-taking disease, we are discussing it here. In hindsight, considering the number of people being tested and diagnosed every day for Alzheimer's in the UK, the NHS has an extremely bad record. So, we are at the stage of my considering that the results, as supplied by my psychiatrist to me, were, I believed, flawed. Due to that, I personally funded a second scan, which came back very much to my own thinking and not the psychiatrist's argument. I am constantly bearing in mind the general thought that Alzheimer's is almost impossible to diagnose for certain. Bearing in mind the little empirical evidence I gleaned from my degree studies I was very concerned and confused with the two scans now in hand. After long discussions and more letter writing by myself and others including the senior psychologist. I carried on researching and investigating what the ultimate test for Alzheimer's was and satisfied myself that this test was the PET scan.
After a troubling debate with the senior psychologist, who seemed now in control of my case, I offered that in the absence of the NHS refusing to pay for the PET scan, I would pay for the next scan myself. Surprisingly and thankfully, the NHS agreed to pay for the PET scan; and the result of that was as follows. The senior psychologist informed me that on scrutiny of the PET scan results, eight to ten years was considered to be more correct as to end of life.
After a troubling debate with the senior psychologist, who seemed now in control of my case, I offered that in the absence of the NHS refusing to pay for the PET scan, I would pay for the next scan myself. Surprisingly and thankfully, the NHS agreed to pay for the PET scan; and the result of that was as follows. The senior psychologist informed me that on scrutiny of the PET scan results, eight to ten years was considered to be more correct as to end of life.
David
Being an ex Army officer my wife was diagnosed with Ahlzimers 4/1/2 years ago. I am her sole carer. I feel that it is wrong that we have to sell our home if she needs to go into care.
Anthony
My Mother was suffering from cognitive decline for years before she was finally diagnosed with vascular dementia after being sectioned and hospitalised in 2006. She was subject to numerous ‘community based’ appointments a questionnaires over a 10 yr period from 1996 with outcomes sometimes indicating her condition was improving! Her treatment in A&E and then a general hospital ward for a number of weeks, before being moved to a more appropriate facility, was horrendous and triggered complaints from my family right to Ombudsman level - with little satisfaction I might add. I can go into much more detail if required as I have kept relevant documents and photographic evidence to this day.
Chris
with diagnosis, there is help and benefits that cant be accessed if dont have diagnosis. he has vascular dementia so meds arent an issue but you need an early diagnosis to be able to have the meds and for them to do some good.
at least we knew what we were dealing with although still comes as a shock. the memory clinic diagnosed 2 weeks before first lockdown. it was a lonely time as he was also sheilding. i do think that thememory clinic needs to be more supportive and proactive when there ia a diagnosis instead of just shipping us back to the gp.
at least we knew what we were dealing with although still comes as a shock. the memory clinic diagnosed 2 weeks before first lockdown. it was a lonely time as he was also sheilding. i do think that thememory clinic needs to be more supportive and proactive when there ia a diagnosis instead of just shipping us back to the gp.
jenny
My husband has got steadily worse since just before COVID. He lost his job due to giddy spells and then through that we eventually saw him have antidepressants. He appeared ok with simple memory tests so it was put down to anxiety loosing his job etc He was just 60 but since he has forgotten how to navigate Exeter where he was a good bus driver and he is constantly asking me questions as he forgets things instantly. I can loose him in town he looses our car . He can still drive perfectly well but I have to tell him directions all of the time. I have had to try a research centre to get answers as the GP just changed antidepressants! He has had 3 MRIs and finally someone said he had a stroke a few years ago. He hasn't a clue what month it is .He can't remember when our daughter is away. I am desperate to try and get more information as he isn't right!! It affects the whole family and is getting me down. We almost lost our house as his income was important and he had to give up temping as he kept getting lost and was too slow in his movements. People need more thorough assessments and answers for their families to plan the future. I miss my husband to talk to.
Bronwynn
My mum was diagnosed in 2017. It took me roughly 2 years though as I had to fight to get my mum seen by her GP. Eventually she had a memory test and that led to her seeing a specialist and a diagnosis of early onset dementia. She has not seen a specialist since though . She has been seen by a memory nurse several times but only because I have to seek them out for help which is very limited as my mum doesn't engage and refuses help. I don't get much help because of this and feel very frustrated at lack of help
Jacqueline
Hi have been involved with Alzheimer's / Dementia coming up to 20 years when I lost my mum with Vascular / Dementia that's when I started doing charity night's and a group volunteer. Still dealing with it has my brother is in a home at this moment of time so hard for his wife & family. It is very honourable in lot's of ways what you have been doing a long time for Alzheimer's / Dementia
Linda
Mum coped with Dad’s declining awareness for eight years at home before we finally got a diagnosis. The delay was more down to mum successfully covering up what they were both going through.
Even then she was expected to cope with paid for carers for a few hours a week to give her the tiniest bit of respite, plus whatever I could do in between working full time and caring for my own household.
It wasn’t until I managed to persuade social services to get her a week of respite that the professionals realised fully what she was enduring. In fact the first respite only managed half a day before calling us to take him home. I refused, she probably wouldn’t have done. The second home managed to keep him overnight and then they “couldn’t cope”.
Luckily, and yes luck is a big factor, we found a home that specialised in people with dementia. Dad was there for four years and in that time had several oesophageal stents to keep him able to swallow. However, eventually the medical professionals decided his poor 95 year old body had had enough and he was allowed to pass away peacefully in his sleep.
It took mum several years to regain a life for herself, but now eleven years later, at almost 96, she is still living independently.
She was so worn down living with Dad’s dementia at one time I thought she might go first.
Even then she was expected to cope with paid for carers for a few hours a week to give her the tiniest bit of respite, plus whatever I could do in between working full time and caring for my own household.
It wasn’t until I managed to persuade social services to get her a week of respite that the professionals realised fully what she was enduring. In fact the first respite only managed half a day before calling us to take him home. I refused, she probably wouldn’t have done. The second home managed to keep him overnight and then they “couldn’t cope”.
Luckily, and yes luck is a big factor, we found a home that specialised in people with dementia. Dad was there for four years and in that time had several oesophageal stents to keep him able to swallow. However, eventually the medical professionals decided his poor 95 year old body had had enough and he was allowed to pass away peacefully in his sleep.
It took mum several years to regain a life for herself, but now eleven years later, at almost 96, she is still living independently.
She was so worn down living with Dad’s dementia at one time I thought she might go first.
Susan
My wife developed dementia over 5 years and finally went into a care home to be looked after by professionals. It destroyed both our lives, going from an ordinary loving couple to me being her carer until it nearly gave me a nervous breakdown. Dementia is like no other condition. It is cruel and relentless but
Peter
It has taken 3 years for my husband John to be diagnosed with Lewy Body dementia.From a visit to the GP in may 2021 till may of this year.In between there's been numerous appointments neuropsychological and neurophysiological testing MRI and CT scans.Lumbar puncture and a week of lumbar draining from his brain to exclude normal pressure hydrocephalus causing his symptoms.You would think a neurosurgeon would be able to refer him to the memory clinic after the lumbar draining failed to show an improvement,no ,it was back to the GP for her to refer him,so many months wasted when he could have been on rivastigmine to slow the deterioration down.He is the love of my life and it breaks my heart to see him struggle with everyday living xxxxxxJo
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