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‘I want to go home’ - What to say to someone with dementia in care
Here are some ways family members and primary carers can approach the difficult question, 'What do I say to someone with dementia in residential care who wants to go home?'
It's not uncommon for a person with dementia to say they want to go home. This may be caused by time-shifting or general confusion, and can be distressing for everyone.
Below are a few considerations on what to say to someone in this situation who wants to go home.
5 things to remember when someone with dementia is asking to go home
1. Avoid arguing about whether they are already ‘home'
For a person with dementia, the term 'home' may describe something more than the place they currently live. Often when a person with dementia asks to go home it refers to the sense of ’home’ rather than home itself.
‘Home’ may represent memories of a time or place that was comfortable and secure and where they felt relaxed and happier. It could also be an indefinable place that may not physically exist.
It’s usually best not to try to reason or disagree with the person about where their home is.
If they don't recognise their environment as 'home' at that moment, then for that moment, it isn't home.
Try to understand and acknowledge the feelings behind the wish to go home. Find out where 'home' is for them - it might not be the last place they lived. It could be where they lived before moving recently or it could be somewhere from their distant past.
Often people with dementia describe 'home' as a pleasant, peaceful or idyllic place where they were happy. They could be encouraged to talk about why they were happy there. This can give an idea as to what they might need to feel better.
2. Reassure them of their safety
The desire to go home is probably the same desire anyone would have if we found ourselves in an unfamiliar place.
Reassure the person verbally, and possibly with arm touches or handholding if this feels appropriate. Let the person know that they are safe.
It may help to provide reassurance that the person is still cared about. They may be living somewhere different from where they lived before, and need to know they’re cared for.
3. Try diverting the conversation
Keep a photograph album handy. This could be a physical book or photos on a tablet or smartphone. Sometimes looking at pictures from the past and being given the chance to reminisce will ease the person’s feelings of anxiety.
It might be best to avoid asking questions about the pictures or the past, instead trying to make comments: 'That looks like Uncle Fred. Granny told me about the time he....'
Alternatively, you could try shifting the person's focus from home to something else - such as food, music, or other activities, such as going for a walk.
4. Establish whether or not they are feeling unhappy or lonely
A person with dementia may want to 'go home' because of feelings of anxiety, insecurity, depression or fear.
Think about whether the person with dementia is happy or unhappy when they mention going home. If they are unhappy, it may be possible to discover why. If they cannot tell you why, perhaps a member of the staff or another resident knows why.
Like anyone, someone with dementia may act out of character to the people closest to them as a result of a bad mood or bad day.
Does the person with dementia keep talking about going home when people are not visiting them in the care home? Does he or she seem to have settled otherwise? Ask the staff in the home as they may know.
5. Keep a log of when they are asking to go home
Certain times of the day might be worse than others. What seems to be the common denominator about these times? Is it near meal times (and would a snack perhaps help)? Is it during times when the environment is noisier than usual? Is it later in the day and possibly due to ‘sundowning’?
If you see a pattern, you can take steps to lessen or avoid some of the triggers.
This article was first published in 2018 and most recently updated in January 2024.
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KItty
saysYour article on 'I want to go home' and the advice is much appreciated. My lovely Dad has mixed dementia - Vascular & Alzheimers along with other medical needs; it came as a devastating blow to us all. We recently took the decision to place him in respite care for a couple of weeks, as much as anything to give my dear Mum a break and rest from being his full-time carer, instead of being his wife. She was completely exhausted, anxious and overwhelmed by his needs and illness - it's absolutely heartbreaking to watch them on this cruel journey. My Dad's not able to understand why he's in the home, says he's done nothing wrong and is regularly pleading us to take him home. It's so distressing hearing him upset on the phone in this way; but I know he's being taken good care of and without him being in the home our Mum's health would be at serious risk of deteriorating too. I'll being visiting him at the end of this week and will be using your advice on how to approach his repeated requests to 'go home'. I'm not sure that he'll be able to come home due to the level of care he now needs and whilst we'd all love nothing more than him not to have dementia and to be at home with Mum, that's not where we're at and firmly believe he and my Mum are both getting the best possible care for their individual needs. I also understand music can be a great comfort to someone with dementia and I bought Dad a radio for Christmas, although it has to be programmed to his favourite music channels. I hope this too will bring him a little comfort during a very confusing and upsetting time for us all.
Candace
saysEasier than a radio is an IPad filled with music the person likes or is likely to enjoy. I bought some mini Ipods and moved over 150 digitized songs onto them. Then the staff just had to plug it in at night for recharging and put the headphones on my Dad's head and then hit they play button. It most definitely pleased him and improved his day and he was able to kick back the headphones to hang around his neck when he wanted to focus on something else. You can probably find a young relative to help you get the music onto an IPOD and make sure they verify that the volume of each song is consistent, so that while listening, no song is going to hurt the ears.
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Anita I Leedale
saysI bought an Alexa for my mum, she can listen to her favourite music. I also ask for sleep well chanel for when she just can't settle 8 out of 10 times it works. Right now we are going through a very difficult stage with mum and getting no help. She went into hospital dehydrated and presented with infection markers after putting her on fluids we were sent home with no treatment and was told it was the beginning of the end. I called her GP and got him to come out and try explain the reasoning behind no treatment and no end of life care. He gave antibiotics and put end of life care in place. Mum perked up on antibiotics, she started eating and drinking again and seemed almost back to what she was previously. This didn't last long (about 5 days) she eats very little and hardly drinks but she seems quite strong and demands to be taken home she has become aggressive and accuses us of hurting her the slightest touch can make her squeal out in pain. We have just gone through 4 nights of no sleep she demands to go to the toilet every half hour to an hour or wanting to go home, crying for her mum or dad, tonight she seems a little calmer but irritable. I'm at my whits end as to what to do for the best do I start the end of life meds as the doctor advised or ask for something else to calm her. She isn't presenting as someone who is dying according to my niece who is an end of life nurse in the community. Any advice would be much appreciated. I do not want my mum in a nursing home she will remain with us until the end as this is what she wanted.
Donna
saysTry look up a dementia music player, you can download all his favourite music on it and he can’t knock it off the station , the volume is set by you and just a wooden lid to play music or put the lid down to stop it, it also has one large button if he wants to skip to next song x
Lee Collins
saysMy Father constantly wants to go home, he wants to know why he can't, and how unfair it is. He has recently started to wander and been returned thankfully by the police. He has said he wants to be arrested so he dosnt have to stop here, ( his home for the past 20yrs). He is 90 and lives with my mother who is 83. This is constant, he even barricades himself in rooms and shouts for help. How can we help him, how can I help my mum? I am at a loss.
Anonymous
saysHello Lee, thank you for your comment.
We're sorry to hear about your father's diagnosis and feeling as though he wants to 'go home'. It sounds like a very challenging time. Please know that you are not alone, and we are here for you if you need someone to talk to.
You can call our Dementia Connect support line on 0333 150 3456 to speak with one of our trained dementia advisers. They are here to listen to you, understand your situation and provide you with support. More details about the support line (including opening hours) are available here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line
You might also find it helpful to talk to others who have been or are in similar situations. Within our online community, Talking Point, carers and other people affected by dementia share experiences, advice and offer support. You can browse the community or sign up to become a member: https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/
We hope this helps, Lee. Please do call our support line for more advice and support.
Alzheimer's Society Website team
Denisa
saysI read so many of your stories in the comments crying, but in the same time finding the confort that we are not alone living with the dreadful illness in someone you deeply love.
My grandma had symptoms in the last year, kept repeating things and her short term memory was affected. However, just last week she had a rapid worsening of her disease to the point she is very confused, does not recognise the house she lived in for decades and says she wants to go back to her childhood house. She sometimes stays awake at night and packs everything in the house. In less than 10 days she went from independent to needing someone around 24/7, serving her food, watching her. She has moments when she is even confused about who we are...which hurts so bad.
We are trying to take care of her, but it is so exhausting to stay awake at night to watch her and also care for her during the day, while also dealing with day to day life. But it is so difficult to take the decision of moving her into a facility, the guilt of not being able to do it on ourselves...I am afraid that if we decide on that, the moments when she is in her right mind might dissapear and she will only suffer...I hope that she knows how much we love her and that any decision we may take is for her best interest.
Felicity Peace
saysMy husband has dementia and has said sor hurtful things . I don’t know what to believe . It has made me so sad. His will l ever know what’s true?
Anonymous
saysHi Felicity,
Sorry to hear that your husband has dementia and has said hurtful things – that sounds really difficult.
You may find it helpful to speak with one of our dementia advisers. They will be able to learn more about your situation and give advice. You can call our Dementia Connect support line on 0333 150 3456. More details (including opening hours) are available here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line
Many people also find it helps to talk with other people who have had similar experiences. Our online community, Talking Point, is a great place to connect with other people affected by dementia, ask questions and share experiences. https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/
I hope this is helpful Felicity. Please do call our support line for more advice and support.
Alzheimer's Society website team
Helen Mason
saysMy husband, when he gets annoyed with me, accuses me of having multiple lovers. Several of whom are gay. This is the one accusation which really upsets me, that and not trusting me with access to the bank account. Which l have never had anyway, even though it is joint. I have always worked so had my own bank account. To have arrived at the age of eighty, been married for over sixty years and this distrust is one of the most horrible elements so far.
Anonymous
saysHi Helen, thanks for getting in touch.
This must be a very upsetting situation for you. We'd recommend calling our support line on 0333 150 3456 to speak with one of our trained dementia advisers. They will listen to you and provide specific information, advice and support. You can find more details about the support line (including opening hours) here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line
You might also benefit from joining our online community, Talking Point, where carers and other people affected by dementia share their experiences. You can browse the community or sign up for free here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/dementia-talking-point-our-on…
In the meantime, we have information on our website that may be of interest to you. As part of our factsheet on Changes in perception, we have a section on this page titled 'Managing accusations and dementia': https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/about-dementia/symptoms-and-diagnosis/del… You can download the full 27-page factsheet as a PDF (https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/sites/default/files/pdf/sight_perception_…) or you can order resources through the post (https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/form/order-free-publications) - all at no cost.
We hope this helps, Helen - and remember to call the support line if you need someone to talk to.
Alzheimer's Society blog team
Cazinsale
saysI cried reading your article. My mum has been the same with her partner of 30 years. He was mentally and physically punished for something he didn't do. He sadly left my mum as she refused any help from the doctors as she couldn't see the problem. Two years on and a daily battle to get diagnosis. my mum today was diagnosed with vascular dementia and I have been told she has had three mini strokes. My advice is to see your GP and insist on memory test .....good luck and don't give up....just find the help you need. The GP is a good start also your local council can advise you on services available for your husband and for you. Good luck ❤️
Grace
saysSo many of us express feeling guilty . I think we believe, or at least hope, we can make things better. I am learning that I cannot fix any of the issues my mother is experiencing. I am powerless. I cannot make her see that she is home, that someone is not stealing from her, that another person is not using her toothbrush, that the clothes in the closet are hers ( they even have her name tags ). She is tenacious in her delusions and a I am horrible at redirecting her.
It takes a village to care for people with dementia. I am so thankful for the support and care provided by a memory care facility. Do not feel guilty for doing the best you can do. Do not let caring for someone else cause you to lose your own life and sanity. You cannot reverse dementia, or stop the inevitable decline.
Brigitte
saysMy mom constantly accuses us of stealing her jewelry and her money. She hid her jewelry and we still haven't found it. I started managing her cash and checkbook since she accuses us of stealing from her. She has over 200.000 in the bank and her house. It's frustrating when being accused of stealing from someone you are taking care of. I have a Pastor and Church family that help me cope, and most of all God who keeps me sane and I'm doing this unto God and not anyone else. That's the only way that I cope. Prayer is the key, and I take it day by day; sometimes, I want to just let my mom go back to her house and stay by herself, but I know that is not safe for her, so my husband and I try to do our best to take care of her even though she may not appreciate us and works against us. My brother also helps out, but he doesn't agree with us having her move into our house and not letting her stay at home. Stay encouraged and pray to God to help you and your loved one.
Anonymous
saysWe're really sorry to hear this, Brigitte - it must be a very challenging situation to be in.
We have information about delusions, paranoia and dementia that you may find useful. It is common for people with dementia to experience delusions (or strongly held false beliefs), which can also take the form of paranoia. Common delusions include theft or believing loved ones are trying to harm them. Read more here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/about-dementia/symptoms-and-diagnosis/del…
We hope this helps for now.
Alzheimer's Society website team
Nicole Parker
saysMy mother recently fell and it seems to have increased her dementia she does not know where she is , she is asking for her mother and my father who have already passed. I wish I knew how to address the death of her loved ones when she seated she just talked to them. I try the white lie but it’s hard I have never lied to my mom, and she still come back to she needs to get home to dad. What do you tell them about the people that have died if your not supposed to tell them
Julie
saysNicole, it sounds exactly like my mothers situation. She even thinks that I am her mother instead of her daughter, always asks to call her mother and father and asks if she needs to make dinner for her husband who has also passed. She tells me about activities she has done, which I know not to have happened, but to her it’s real. I try to reorient her when she’s anxious to her surroundings, like look at your wall see your pictures, it’s your dresser, couch, pictures, etc, it calms her when she thinks she’s in the wrong room. She is 90 years old so I’ve found if I say to her, anyone older than you has already passed and all that are younger are still around, she just accepts that for now. It’s not easy at all but I just try to keep up beat and calm, repeating the same thing many times a day. It’s the first time they are hearing it, but many times for us saying it. I say to her you are okay, I will always be here for you. I still can’t get by the lie part but distraction/changing the subject helps. Blessings and prayers for you both.
Jen
saysHi Nicole, I’ve worked in care for many years now and a lot of residents with dementia often ask where their parents are, or they say I need to go home because my parents will be worried where I am. I usually say, please don’t worry, you’re safe here, Dads at work or Mom’s at the shop, how’s about we have a cup of tea and we can do a jigsaw or a drawing or watch tv. It’s better to distract than to argue their point. I really hope this helps. You have to kind of believe what you’re saying when you’re saying it, as you need to sound reassuring even though you’re telling a white lie. You’re not doing it to hurt anyone, you’re doing the best you can and that takes a remarkable person to do that x
Celine Uzell
saysMy mother has recently being diagnosed with dementia/Alzheimer’s in the last 6months. She was recently hit by a car and ended up in the hospital with a broken knee and fractured leg. My brothers and I have being trying to visit every day to make sure she is doing ok. Anytime it’s time for us to leave she gets extremely upset and has a panic attack. The nurses in the hospital have told us maybe we need to stop visiting for a couple of days so she will get comfortable, is this a good idea?? She will be going to a rehabilitation centre for a few weeks for her leg to heal. We are just scared that she won’t remember us or that she might think wr don’t care. I need help
Anonymous
saysHi Celine, thanks for getting in touch.
We're really sorry to hear this. It sounds like a really distressing situation for everyone involved.
If you're based in the UK, we'd recommend speaking with a dementia adviser through our support line. If you call 0333 150 3456, they will listen to your mother's situation, provide you with dementia information, advice and support. More details about the support line (including opening hours over the Christmas period) are available here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line
You and your brothers may also benefit from talking with others affected by dementia. Within our online community, carers, family members and people living with dementia can share their experiences, offer advice and support. Talking Point is free to use, and open day or night - you can simply browse the community, or sign up to join the conversation: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/dementia-talking-point-our-on…
We hope this helps for now, Celine.
Alzheimer’s Society blog team
Laura Hinojsoa
saysMy younger sister (age 57) is in a memory care facility. She's been in there for about 6 months. She considers our mom's house her home because that is where we grew up. Every time we go visit her and take her out to do activities and take take her back to memory care, she starts crying and says she wants to stay the night at moms house. She said she's lonely and sacred. Mom and I are wondering if we should take her to mom's house to visit for a couple hours or will this just make things worst by not wanting to go back to memory care. I feel I'm being so cruel to her by not taking her to moms house.
Daughter
saysI am in the same boat and don’t know what to do. Is taking her to mom’s house for a couple hours more helpful or hurtful.
Susan
saysWe’re going thru the same situation with my 99 year old dad in memory care. He pleads to go home so when he dies he dies where my mom died 1.5 yrs ago.
RENEE PETERSON
saysEvery story is heart breaking ,for both the carer's and the Parents. I am still unsure how to deal with my Mom's wanting to go home. We are lost. My Pops had a stroke and a 3x cabg bypass. He has vascular dementia as well. Plus my Hubby is a lung cancer survivor-it has been almost 20 yrs-and now they have found a spot on his other lung.I am praying like there is no tomorrow. I feel for each and every one of you. I really wish they could come up with better medications to help slow down this awful spiral. My Mom and Pops have lived in their home for 42years. I am not sure which location she is referring to as her home. Her childhood home? or Home when she and my Pops got married? This is the hardest thing. I try to be patient as does my bro-inlaw and sister. We four live here in Mom and DAD'S home -with them. God Bless you all and your sick one/ones. Hang in there!
Janice Howell
saysMy mum has recently gone to live in a new house with my sister and brother in law. She has vascular dementia and is no longer able to live on own safely.
My sister has made her living room as much like her old room as possible with her own things around her but she doesn't recognise them as her own.
She is constantly wanting to go home and doesn't understand she is living with my sister and thinks my sister is her carer and not her daughter. My sister is trying to not feel hurt but is finding it hard.
Mum is constantly ringing me and my other sister wanting to go home and saying she is not happy and why have we put her here. She isn't interested in anything anymore even her TV and sits thinking all the time about going home.
We are at a loss what to do as we thought this was the best thing for her.
sister and thinks my sister now is her
Anonymous
saysWe're sorry to hear this, Janice - it sounds like a difficult time for you and your sister.
We'd recommend calling our Dementia Connect support line on 0333 150 3456 to speak with one of our trained dementia advisers. They are here to listen to you, understand the situation with you, your mum and your sister and provide you all with support. More details about the support line (including opening hours) are available here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line
You and your sister might also find it helpful to talk to others who have been, or are currently in, similar situations. Within our online community, Talking Point, carers and other people affected by dementia share experiences, advice and offer support. You can browse the conversations that are happening in the community or sign up to become a member: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/dementia-talking-point-our-on… It's free to use, and open day or night.
We hope this helps, Janice.
Alzheimer's Society blog team
Elisa Romero
saysHi my mom has dimentia and I lived with her all my live but now she thinks there’s two of me she looks at me as her caretaker and she always looking for her daughter which is me…
Anonymous
saysHello Elisa,
We're sorry to hear this - it sounds like a really difficult time for you and your mom.
If you are based in the UK, we recommend speaking with one of our dementia advisers to discuss the situation. They will be best placed to provide you with advice and support. Please call our Dementia Connect support line on 0333 150 3456. More information on opening times can be found here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/dementia-connect-support-line
If you're based in the US, please contact the Alzheimer's Association helpline: https://alz.org/help-support/resources/helpline
Or if you're based in Canada, please contact the Alzheimer's Society of Canada helpline: https://alzheimer.ca/en/Home/ContactUs
Wishing you all the best, Elisa.
Alzheimer's Society blog team
Patrick
saysIt's amazing how the mind works. I would just go with it. Maybe get a hat for each one of your roles, so your mom knows who you are at any given moment. Have fun with it. She may be around for a while.
Julie
saysElisa, oh my, that is exactly what is happening with my mum and I don’t have a sister and there’s not two of me, lol I just say when she asks I say yes that’s me Mum I am whoever you want me to be but I’m the one who does both business and caregiving, it’s okay you maybe thinking about your sister. Not much you can do but understand it’s very confusing and fragmented for them. Blessings on you both.
Sue
saysMy mum is in hospital due to health issue flare ups and has vascular dementia and Alzheimer's. They are lovely on the ward and treat mum well. A few days ago a new patient moved into mums ward. She also has dementia but constantly shouts for help and other things. There is no consoling her. My mum's mental health is getting worse because if the constant shouting which is also affecting mums physical health. Please could you advice me what I can do to help mum with her stay in hospital.
Anonymous
saysHi Sue,
We're sorry to hear about this - it sounds like a difficult situation.
We'd strongly recommend calling our Dementia Connect support line on 0333 150 3456. You'll be able to talk to one of our trained dementia advisers, who can provide information, advice, and support specific to your mum's situation.
You can find more details about the support line (including opening hours) here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line
We hope this helps, Sue. Please do call our support line for advice.
Alzheimer's Society blog team
Patrick
saysHey. My dad is in a similar situation. I bought headphones for my dad and created a playlist of 40's music. The care givers remind my dad to put the headphones on when the woman next door starts screaming.
Shelley Taber
saysWhat do you do when they are in their own home of 50 years and Has stopped believing it is their own home? My brother is taking care of mom and goes through this every evening of her insisting he take her home.
Anonymous
saysHi Shelley,
We're sorry to hear about your mom. If the advice in the article isn't helping, and you are based in the UK, we recommend speaking with one of our dementia advisers to discuss your mom's situation. They will be best placed to provide you with advice and support. You can call our Dementia Connect support line on 0333 150 3456. (More information on opening times: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/dementia-connect-support-line)
If you're based in the US, please contact the Alzheimer's Association helpline: https://alz.org/help-support/resources/helpline
Or if you're based in Canada, please contact the Alzheimer's Society of Canada helpline: https://alzheimer.ca/en/Home/ContactUs
Wishing you all the best,
Alzheimer's Society blog team
Terri
saysI am dealing with this as well. Mom lives with me, and often wants to go home, even though we have lived here fir 50 years. She gets so focused on it, there is no distracting or redirecting her. She even threatened to call the police to have them come take her home. The article isn’t really helpful for those who are in the home they’ve lived in for decades.
Anthony
saysTerri, it’s been very frustrating trying to find information or help with this. I am currently going through the exact same thing with my father, and these last 2 months have been some of the hardest days I’ve ever had to go through. I’m sure it’s been equally tough for our parents. Ive found that changing the way I try to deal with him until I find something that works is the only way I’ve made any kind of progress.
Patricia
saysOur 87 year old mother wants to go home every night. We just tell her that we have a nice bed to sleep in at this house and as it is too dark to drive right now we will stay overnight and see about heading “home” when the sun is out. It seems to appease her.
Patrick
saysI tell my dad that we will go home as soon as the car is out of the shop, or that there's a pandemic and we have to stay put. I acknowledge his frustration and dissappointment, and try to talk about the feeling of being home. What makes a house a home? Connect to that part of him that misses home and security. I show him old photos.. Its tough.
Today I will take my dad for a drive around the neighborhood , and drive past a house he used to live in. We will talk about how it makes us feel. good luck!
Dennis Fletcher
saysMy wife wants her mum and to go home. When no other option is available I take my 82 year old wife for a walk around the block in an attempt to tire her. Arriving back at our home of 50 or so years I can usually steer her back into the house by telling her that Stuart (our son) is waiting for her. Most times it works but once it seriously backfired when I nearly lost control of the situation. I'm exceeding lucky in that our son lives with us and he helps enormously. Best of luck to all tackling this problem.
ANNETTE Burns
saysHow do you explain that you can't visit each day because the facility is in lockdown ? Do you tell her or appeal to her better nature and continue to say you are tired today and won't be able to take her out etc ?
Anonymous
saysHi Annette,
It sounds like you might benefit from joining our online community, Talking Point, where carers and other people affected by dementia share their experiences and offer support. This could be an ideal place for you to speak to and get advice from others who have been in similar situations: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/dementia-talking-point-our-on…
You can also call our Dementia Connect support line on 0333 150 3456. When you call, our advisers can listen to your situation and offer dementia information, advice, and emotional support. More details about the support line (including opening hours) are here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line
We hope this helps for now.
Alzheimer's Society blog team
Richard Morgan
saysWhat advice and help would be given to a care home resident with dementia who expresses the wishes of wanting to go back to the family home they own due to being extremely upset at being kept in the care home against the wishes of that person and hating it being in the care home and painfully missing being back at home again?
Anonymous
saysHello Richard, thanks for your comment.
For advice on a situation like this, we'd strongly recommend contacting our Dementia Connect support line on 0333 150 3456.
Our expert dementia advisers can listen to the situation and offer information, advice, and support. More details about the support line, including opening hours, can be found here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line
Please do call the support line if you need help with this, Richard.
Alzheimer's Society blog team
Nicola Craythorne
saysHi. My Nan has vascular dementia and ended up in hospital with an infection. When the infection cleared up they sent her to a hospital further away, to help with getting her walking so she can go home. My Mom is her full time carer and does a fantastic job. The hospital she is in is too far away for us to visit often so we have asked if she can be moved to the local hospital, who have told us they have space. However they are refusing to transfer her. My Nan needs familiar faces and family contact. How can we get her closer to home to help her with her recovery? Thank you.
Anonymous
saysHello Nicola, thank you for getting in touch.
We'd recommend speaking with one of our dementia advisers by calling the Dementia Connect support line on 0333 150 3456. This is a great way to get dementia information, support and advice specific to your Nan's situation. (More information about the support line, including opening times, can be found here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line)
In the meantime, we have information on our website about hospital care, which includes if you experience problems with the person’s treatment or care (https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/help-dementia-care/during-hos…). This is also available as a downloadable 30-page PDF (https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/media/986).
Remember to call the support line to speak with someone about this.
We hope this is useful.
Alzheimer's Society blog team
Angela
saysWould I be allowed to take my dad out off the home he is in .and look after him in his own apartment... I really want him home . The rest off the family just left him there please help any advice appreciated...
Anonymous
saysHi Angela,
Thanks for your comment.
We have an article on this which you may find helpful - it has some information on what is possible, as well as somebody's experience doing so. You can read the article here:
https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/blog/moving-out-care-home-during-coronavi…
We hope this helps, but if you have any further questions don't hesitate to call our Dementia Connect support line on 0333 150 3456. You can find more details about the support line here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line
Best wishes,
Alzheimer's Society blog team