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My mum was diagnosed in about 2015/16 with alzimers...
My dad fell down the stairs in a freak accident and had a traumatic head injury after 8 months of fighting hospitals to get him the best care and support he finally...
My husband behan experiencing unusual symptoms beginning of lockdown and our gp diagnosed depression due to lockdown. However, I knew rhis wasn't true so mid summer...
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I took my Mum to her Doctor after noticing changes...
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When I persuaded my mum to go to the GPs they did...
My mum was diagnosed with dementia when she was 70. It came as a shock to us as she had always been a fit and healthy person, she had always worked in accounts and...
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I worked in care so I had done a Dementia level 2...
We first noticed my wife was not quite her normal self in November 2021, we contacted her GP who examined her and decided she had very mild dementia and he was taking...
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My husband is now 68 and when he was 60 I was...
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I have a family history on dementia. On my mums side...
My sister’s story has been shared and recorded by the society on YouTube use the link below
https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=OqKyjOXr8kg
Colin was given the devastating news he had Lewy bodies on the same day we were put into lockdown. Our world not only imploded by became so much smaller. Its been...
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My mum was diagnosed in about 2015/16 with alzimers . It took a while before we got appointment through for mum to be tested . And then we tried to get things set up as I worked and lived at home with mum. It takes to long to get a social worker . Only for mums granddaughter sorting it out did we eventually get things sorted . I was mums main carer and when I went to work which I worked 3 nights a week mums granddaughter was her night carer when I was in work . I looked after my mum for 8 yrs at home and it was hard sometimes but I wouldn’t have changed a thing . Sadly mum passed away at home peacefully on 3/2/2022 . Mum was 93 yrs young . The system is too slow and the government really needs to step up and give faster help with people with dementia and there carers . Also quicker diagnosis. Some people might say it’s all the red tape . No sorry I don’t believe that it’s needs to be quicker and also more money needs to be put into trying to find a cure . After all people who have or had dementia have paid tax and insurance most of there lives and need to be looked in there later stages of life . Unpaid carers save the government millions . So the government needs to put that money into quicker diagnosis and invest invest invest into finding a cure . I wouldn’t have changed a thing looking after my mum at home for 8 yrs with alzimers such a very cruel desease and it’s devastating seeing ur loved one slowly deteriorating day by day . But I can honestly say I would do it all over again . Because I miss my mum every single day even though she had Alzimers . Love and miss you mum forever an always .
Sam
My dad fell down the stairs in a freak accident and had a traumatic head injury after 8 months of fighting hospitals to get him the best care and support he finally came home. Dad then starting changing luckily I had been a carer for years and knew he was starting to forget things and I knew it wasn't just the head injury that was presenting. I had to fight for 8 months to eventually het him assessed as the doctors kept saying its hard to disassociate if he has a head injury or dementia. A year later he was diagnosed and started on medication to help slow down the effects and to calm him down. Throughout looking after my dad for 8 years, 3 of them he lived with us until he unfortunately died I don't feel like he get enough help and care and that I had to fight doctors, dwp and health care professionals to get him the best equipment, help and medication. Like anyone who knows caring for a loved one with dementia takes so much energy and part of yourself so to have to fight to get him the best help is so draining.
Sarah
My husband behan experiencing unusual symptoms beginning of lockdown and our gp diagnosed depression due to lockdown. However, I knew rhis wasn't true so mid summer went private to see a neurologist who requested an Mri which showed a rare tyre of dementia. Luckily we didn't have to pay for mri as done on NHS. I was angry that our gp hadn't recommended this. As soon as we got result of Mri we could understand and work on my husbands symptoms.
Dementia of any sort needs to be recognised and dealt with and care out into place. Too many people say whete to go for advice but no one to look and relieve carers
Dementia of any sort needs to be recognised and dealt with and care out into place. Too many people say whete to go for advice but no one to look and relieve carers
Lynne
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I took my Mum to her Doctor after noticing changes with her for a year, the Doctor said I don’t think it’s anything other than lack of oxygen to the brain!
Two years later I took Mum back and she was referred by the same Doctor for diagnosis which came back as vascular dementia.
I didn’t know much about it I had lots to learn to support Mum, I wanted her to have medication to help her manage best she could I believed this was the way.
Mum did get medication, the disease progressed I learnt so much on the move - that it was progressive I couldn’t stop it or make it better and the medication I believe helped Mum manage in a better way in turn helping me/us to support her.
I learnt so much it was like trying to hold back a cart from going faster down a hill it didn’t stop and we managed to support Mum throughout.
I believe although many things changed losing who she had always been Mum always remembered who I was amongst lots of confusion.
I believe it would have been a disaster for Mum and us supporting her had she not had the medication that helped her manage I believe her emotions and how she felt and acted or reacted which is HUGE.
I think it would be far less costly in many ways imaginable to diagnose people and offer medication in an organised supportive structured way more humane.
The photo is of my attempt to get Mum into a CAT scan
Two years later I took Mum back and she was referred by the same Doctor for diagnosis which came back as vascular dementia.
I didn’t know much about it I had lots to learn to support Mum, I wanted her to have medication to help her manage best she could I believed this was the way.
Mum did get medication, the disease progressed I learnt so much on the move - that it was progressive I couldn’t stop it or make it better and the medication I believe helped Mum manage in a better way in turn helping me/us to support her.
I learnt so much it was like trying to hold back a cart from going faster down a hill it didn’t stop and we managed to support Mum throughout.
I believe although many things changed losing who she had always been Mum always remembered who I was amongst lots of confusion.
I believe it would have been a disaster for Mum and us supporting her had she not had the medication that helped her manage I believe her emotions and how she felt and acted or reacted which is HUGE.
I think it would be far less costly in many ways imaginable to diagnose people and offer medication in an organised supportive structured way more humane.
The photo is of my attempt to get Mum into a CAT scan
Susan
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When I persuaded my mum to go to the GPs they did arrange a memory test and a MRI diagnosing Alzheimer’s mixed with vascular dementia. Although the diagnosis was a relief that what I suspected was true I didn’t know whether I had done the right thing but then realised I could warn people my mum was in contact with should they suspect anything odd. Like those at church and other relatives. For 18 months she was functional with support adapting to getting taxis instead of driving. Fortunately she took our advice to stop driving. The GP had prescribed a drug straight away and I didn’t u derstand what he meant by this would help but then she would fall off a cliff, I realised 18minths after diagnosis when she had a fall and broke her neck of femur, I realised later was a blackout. After this point though focussing on the leg she had actually changed dramatically and was distressed and could now only remember a couple of minutes.
We had to get her into a dementia care home for her safety and well being.
I have found medics, nurses, most people in fact in roles public facing do not understand dementia or Alzheimer’s, a medical consultant really reacting like it was deafness. I feel a lot of services get there staff to carry out an online course. They do not understand the different connotations of the disease presenting in different people.
My mother can’t remember the past, can’t follow conversation unless one to one, can’t follow TV, when in pain you have to ask in a certain way to get the truth.
I am now used to it, but when I looked online there was little to support the immediate carer/family on how to cope with the Ambiguous Grief you feel enormously as your person continues through the decline.
We had to get her into a dementia care home for her safety and well being.
I have found medics, nurses, most people in fact in roles public facing do not understand dementia or Alzheimer’s, a medical consultant really reacting like it was deafness. I feel a lot of services get there staff to carry out an online course. They do not understand the different connotations of the disease presenting in different people.
My mother can’t remember the past, can’t follow conversation unless one to one, can’t follow TV, when in pain you have to ask in a certain way to get the truth.
I am now used to it, but when I looked online there was little to support the immediate carer/family on how to cope with the Ambiguous Grief you feel enormously as your person continues through the decline.
Christine
My mum was diagnosed with dementia when she was 70. It came as a shock to us as she had always been a fit and healthy person, she had always worked in accounts and had retrained to teach adult literacy and numeracy after been made redundant. The run up to diagnosis was slow, nothing specific was obvious that this was the problem just small things like not wanting to drive or forgetting how to use unfamiliar items so by the time she got her diagnosis the subtle signs had been there for several years, this is perhaps where we need more awareness of the small changes that indicate what is happening, once diagnosed there was a rapid deterioration and she soon became dependent on family and carers help, we need better early diagnosis so people are prepared for what is going to happen to their loved ones
Helen
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I worked in care so I had done a Dementia level 2 certificate. This came in useful when my dad was displaying signs of dementia. We had taken him to London for his 80th birthday and as we were going around the science museum he was going to spit on to the floor, not something he would do. He was confused with money, he confused my nephews feeding bottle for the vinegar bottle. He couldn't find his way to the toilets and back. He went to dry his hands at the condom machine instead of the hand dryer. My husband of 28 years was with him but he didn't recognise him. He asked my husband " How do I get out of here mate?"
It was obvious to me that he was showing signs of dementia. I spoke to my dad and he agreed to go to the drs. We went and after numerous tests he was diagnosed , after 6 months, as having Vasculour dementia. We didn't get much support from the memory team. It was down to my mum, my brother and myself to look after him. Diagnosis took too long and as dad progressed his love for playing his harmonica became less and less. He had played, self taught from the age of 7 years old. This all took it's toll on mum. She would take time out by going to bingo leaving dad home alone, as my brother and I were both working full time. My dad then suddenly deteriorated and his love for music and gardening, or simply tinkering around the house disappeared. He would just sit and close his eyes. He didn't recognise my mum. He thought my brother was my husband. He began dressing in his pyjamas over his clothes and passing urine in the waste bin. He was taken for respite into a care home, where he wouldn't eat or drink. He came home but was still the same. Carers were brought in. My mum couldn't cope as he wasn't sleeping at night, he was wandering around in the dark. He was taken, he didn't want to go, back to the care home. He was only in there a couple of days when he was found unresponsive. He was rushed to hospital straight to resus. He was given 12 to 24 hours to live. He fought death all the way. He actually lived another 10 days before, after me giving him permission to go, which sounds strange I know but I was always close to my dad , he passed away on the 6th April 2014. I miss my dad everyday and feel that more should be done to diagnose dementia. In a way we were lucky that I spotted the signs early due to my knowledge. Dad actually passed away after only 4 years due to a medical problem. I often say to mum that I am glad that he passed when he did as I couldn't have placed him in a dementia care home, having worked in a dementia unit myself. There simply isn't enough help or support out there for dementia sufferers.
My dad used to record himself playing his music, he had 2 karaoke machines. One to play backing tracks and the other to record. On his funeral day we had dad playing his favourite song My Way, as he entered the crematorium. I hope my story tells enough to help get more help. Sharon
It was obvious to me that he was showing signs of dementia. I spoke to my dad and he agreed to go to the drs. We went and after numerous tests he was diagnosed , after 6 months, as having Vasculour dementia. We didn't get much support from the memory team. It was down to my mum, my brother and myself to look after him. Diagnosis took too long and as dad progressed his love for playing his harmonica became less and less. He had played, self taught from the age of 7 years old. This all took it's toll on mum. She would take time out by going to bingo leaving dad home alone, as my brother and I were both working full time. My dad then suddenly deteriorated and his love for music and gardening, or simply tinkering around the house disappeared. He would just sit and close his eyes. He didn't recognise my mum. He thought my brother was my husband. He began dressing in his pyjamas over his clothes and passing urine in the waste bin. He was taken for respite into a care home, where he wouldn't eat or drink. He came home but was still the same. Carers were brought in. My mum couldn't cope as he wasn't sleeping at night, he was wandering around in the dark. He was taken, he didn't want to go, back to the care home. He was only in there a couple of days when he was found unresponsive. He was rushed to hospital straight to resus. He was given 12 to 24 hours to live. He fought death all the way. He actually lived another 10 days before, after me giving him permission to go, which sounds strange I know but I was always close to my dad , he passed away on the 6th April 2014. I miss my dad everyday and feel that more should be done to diagnose dementia. In a way we were lucky that I spotted the signs early due to my knowledge. Dad actually passed away after only 4 years due to a medical problem. I often say to mum that I am glad that he passed when he did as I couldn't have placed him in a dementia care home, having worked in a dementia unit myself. There simply isn't enough help or support out there for dementia sufferers.
My dad used to record himself playing his music, he had 2 karaoke machines. One to play backing tracks and the other to record. On his funeral day we had dad playing his favourite song My Way, as he entered the crematorium. I hope my story tells enough to help get more help. Sharon
Sharon
We first noticed my wife was not quite her normal self in November 2021, we contacted her GP who examined her and decided she had very mild dementia and he was taking no further action, I wrote to him again in March 2022 he saw her again and he then referred her to the Memory Clinic, we received a letter from the clinic which said an assessment would be carried out in our home at the end of June 22, this was followed by another letter from the clinic telling us that they were arranging a telephone appointment in January 23.
It was during this telephone appointment that my wife was given the diagnosis of Dementia in Alzheimer’s.
The main issue issue we have is because she never saw a consultant in person, she refuses to accept that she has anything wrong with her, this makes my job as her carer a lot harder.
She is now in the middle stage of the disease and can become very angry and aggressive very quickly.
It was during this telephone appointment that my wife was given the diagnosis of Dementia in Alzheimer’s.
The main issue issue we have is because she never saw a consultant in person, she refuses to accept that she has anything wrong with her, this makes my job as her carer a lot harder.
She is now in the middle stage of the disease and can become very angry and aggressive very quickly.
Terry
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My husband is now 68 and when he was 60 I was noticing changes in his remembering certain things. He is a very intelligent man acquiring a 1st in economics and statistics and had a very challenging job. I now at the age of 65 had to close my business as during lockdown and being at home with him, he was doing dangerous things regarding cooking and electrics. His dementia had deteriorated significantly and he now would not shower, change his clothes be able to cook for himself. He was a great reader but cannot do that anymore. Being his full time carer impacts greatly on my well being both physically and mentally. Respite is what I need more than anything but professional respite is very expensive. I have joined dementia groups, spoke to professionals and also Admiral Nurses and although they inform you of certain things the majority of the information I am given is common sense and I am already doing it. I feel that my elderly years of being able to do what and when I like have been taken away and I must admit it does make me very sad and at times resentful. We have 4 grown up children and 6 grandchildren and unfortunately he is starting to forget them which is heartbreaking. The government need to sit up and take more notice of this horrible disease and the situation and stress the cares go through on a daily basis. More help and intervention is definitely needed as without we carers it would cost the state billions but they seem to think they are doing it let them get on with it. A very sad society who the majority it seems don’t care.
Linda
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I have a family history on dementia. On my mums side of the family.My grandmother, mother,and now my 59 year old sister and she has been in care for last 7years and is all nursing care with no speech.it is heart breaking. My brother in law visits weekly and chats away. To her.
Sharon
My sister’s story has been shared and recorded by the society on YouTube use the link below
https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=OqKyjOXr8kg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=OqKyjOXr8kg
Glenys
Colin was given the devastating news he had Lewy bodies on the same day we were put into lockdown. Our world not only imploded by became so much smaller. Its been very hard as it was so unexpected, its very lonely despite friends and family, you always feel on the outside looking in. There is really not a lot available for men with Dementia, I feel, we enjoy our trips out and our son and family have been a huge comfort. But when you close the door you are on your own. It leaves you sitting and worrying over health care, fees etc. Just because you have Dementia you still have a life changing and not very long future. Why are we different? Health care for all.
Gilly
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