My father is currently in hospital with a uti. A good period before this point there was a dramatic decline in his cognitive abilities . He has mixed dementia (vascular and Alzheimer’s). Mum has reached breaking point and doesn’t want him back. He is extremely verbally aggressive at all times and with all interactions as he can’t concentrate. Mum isn’t ‘allowed ‘ a tv or radio on as he will go into a rage and this effects her terribly. She is at his constant beck and call. He is paranoid that she is talking about him even though she gets creamed at if she answers the phone. His hearing deficit means he cannot use the telephone anymore. He has absolutely no insight into his condition and would never accept that he needs to go into respite or a carehome. Hospital are suggesting he may be discharged soon, even though I’ve told them no one is at home and he needs 24 hour care. I’m currently looking after mum. She is shattered and has lost a lot of weight. I have power of attorney health and welfare and jointly with mum for finances. What do I do? I don’t want to make a decision that is wrong for either of them. She doesn’t even want to see him t the moment.
Dementia Support Line
Jemima
saysMy father is currently in hospital with a uti. A good period before this point there was a dramatic decline in his cognitive abilities . He has mixed dementia (vascular and Alzheimer’s). Mum has reached breaking point and doesn’t want him back. He is extremely verbally aggressive at all times and with all interactions as he can’t concentrate. Mum isn’t ‘allowed ‘ a tv or radio on as he will go into a rage and this effects her terribly. She is at his constant beck and call. He is paranoid that she is talking about him even though she gets creamed at if she answers the phone. His hearing deficit means he cannot use the telephone anymore. He has absolutely no insight into his condition and would never accept that he needs to go into respite or a carehome. Hospital are suggesting he may be discharged soon, even though I’ve told them no one is at home and he needs 24 hour care. I’m currently looking after mum. She is shattered and has lost a lot of weight. I have power of attorney health and welfare and jointly with mum for finances. What do I do? I don’t want to make a decision that is wrong for either of them. She doesn’t even want to see him t the moment.