Helping an LGBTQ+ person with dementia with decisions about care

Advice and practical tips for supporting an LGBTQ+ person living with dementia to make plans for their future, including accessing care and appointing someone to make decisions.

There are legal tools to protect the interests and wishes of the person with dementia. This can include wishes that relate to the person’s identity and needs as a LGBTQ+ person.

It’s important to make plans as early as possible, to prepare for a time when the person will need much more support and may not be able to make decisions for themselves.

Appointing a person to make decisions

The person may want to appoint you, or another person who is important to them, to make decisions on their behalf when they are no longer able to make them. For instance, they may want you to ensure that they wear clothes that fit their gender identity.

They can create a Lasting power of attorney (LPA) in England and Wales, or an Enduring power of attorney (EPA) in Northern Ireland.

There are two types of LPA – one for decisions about health and welfare (covering issues such as day-to-day care and treatment) and one for decisions about property and financial affairs (covering issues such as bills, bank accounts and selling property).

However, the EPA in Northern Ireland currently only covers property and financial affairs.

Learn more about planning ahead with dementia

When you have dementia, planning ahead can help you make decisions about care and treatment in the future. This may include writing an advance decision or advance statement or making a Lasting power of attorney (LPA). Read our information to learn more.

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Making the right care decisions for LGBTQ+ people with dementia

In any care setting, the person has a right to the same treatment as people who are not LGBTQ+. The Equality Act 2010 means it is illegal for health and social care staff and organisations in England and Wales to discriminate against someone (treat them less favourably) because of their sexual orientation or gender identity. In Northern Ireland, there are similar laws – the Equality Act (Sexual Orientation) Regulations (Northern Ireland) 2006 and the Sex Discrimination (NI) Order 1976.

Some LGBTQ+ people may be worried about meeting different care staff or going into care settings. They may feel uncomfortable about carers coming into their home and feel it is an intrusion into their safe space.

They may worry that they will experience prejudice or discrimination. The idea of revealing their body to professionals during personal care may also be difficult for them.

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