Memory problems and reminiscence as an LGBTQ+ person with dementia

Memory problems are common in dementia. If you identify as LGBTQ+, they may cause particular difficulties.

LGBTQ+: Living with dementia
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Memory problems you may experience as an LGBTQ+ person with dementia

Issues related to your identity are sensitive and you may find difficulties caused by dementia distressing. For example, you may have trouble remembering whether you have ‘come out’ (told people about your sexual orientation or gender identity).

You may feel worried about problems developing in the later stages of your condition, for example needing help with personal care. This might be something you don’t want to think about now. Take things at a pace you feel comfortable with.

Talk to people who can help if you are worried about anything. This could be a partner, friends or a professional such as a counsellor. There are also things you can do to make sure that any future decisions are based on your wishes.

Examples of memory problems, and ways to manage them

Reminiscence for an LGBTQ+ person with dementia

Some therapies aim to help a person’s memory through talking about events from their past. These are known as ‘reminiscence’ therapies and are often done in a group.

This activity can help you to see your life as a whole and recognise your experiences and achievements. Talking about who you are can help you to focus on your skills and interests, not your dementia. It can help to remind you and others that you have an interesting life.

Thinking and talking about your past can be more difficult if you have experienced prejudice, discrimination and rejection. You may want to think carefully about whether this is something you want to do.

It’s important to think about whether you are comfortable talking about these things in a group situation. Read our information on finding services that are right for you.

If you decide reminiscing would be helpful, you may also want to start keeping a memory or life history book. This can include information or keepsakes from your past, your experiences and the memories that are important to you. It can help others to know more about what is important to you.

Managing memory loss

For practical advice see Memory aids, tools and strategies.

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