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Both my parents passed away with dementia, dad first...
I have been diagnosed with dementia recently! I...
My sister in England invited me over from Australia to stay with her in England. She sounded scared and lonely on the phone after becoming a widow. I got to her home...
My Dad had Dementia with Lewy bodies and died in 2010, Mum is 95 next month and has Alzheimer’s and Vascular Dementia, both parents showed signs of dementia but as a...
My mum was diagnosed with Lewy Body Dementia /Parkisonisms in March 2024 . Mum fell and was taken into hospital where she started having scary hallucinations . Mum...
This has crept up on me. I feel people I know now...
My father was diagnosed with Mixed Dementia 8 weeks...
My husband who is 87 has always been poor at remembering peoples names. His referral to the memory clinic was suggested during a routine annual check up at the...
My wife Navamani is a retired Nursing Matron in a...
I am on leave and I will finally leave and get
I half a mixed Dementia - Alzheimer’s Disease and Vascular Dementia. I'm 58 old and very fitness is pretty good....
My mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s last year. Which has been very hard as she has multiple other illnesses too. I was shocked that the support from the NHS was...
My mum will be 103 in December She was diagnosed with dementia in her nineties and I cared for her until she was 100 years old. She is now in a care home as I could...
Both my parents passed away with dementia, dad first then mam. I was mam's main carer for several years until a hospital visit after a fall when she had to be admitted to a care home with other dementia patients. It was there that she was assaulted by another resident causing multiple fractures, and three weeks later, her death. After caring for her fir so long, to see her life taken away from her by a third party has proved so difficult to accept. A care home should be what it says it is - somewhere where they are cared for. 😪😪
Michael
I have been diagnosed with dementia recently! I wouldn't wish it on anyone! People need to be more compassionate and understanding requarding this diagnosis!
Melinda
My sister in England invited me over from Australia to stay with her in England. She sounded scared and lonely on the phone after becoming a widow. I got to her home and found out two male Power of Attorneys were in place who put in writing that I couldn't live with her. These men are complete strangers to me. I think they are doing the bare minimum of taking her to medical appointments and shopping but she has little socialisation, learning,, love, care, fun and someone to give her the best quality of life. This situation and the way they treated me worsened my complex trauma from an coercive control relationship, made me very ill. Counselling in England advised me to return to Australia to recover. I completed two MOOCS at UTAS, my university in Hobart, Tasmania. Now I'm studying their Diploma in Dementia Care, with a government fee waiver. I have a learning access plan as I find learning, and life, very difficult. I am sad that the support, love and care I wanted and needed to give to my sister means we both suffer a great loss. I don't know what the plans are for decisions about home support, or residential care, or anything. I have never been told when she was in hospital, on several occasions. This situation is not covered in my course because it is a legal issue. But for me this is a care issue, and I'd like the story to be told and hope for a way for families to be told of the diagnosis and treatment plans.
Jennifer
My Dad had Dementia with Lewy bodies and died in 2010, Mum is 95 next month and has Alzheimer’s and Vascular Dementia, both parents showed signs of dementia but as a family you don’t want to accept it and we knew they couldn’t have accepted it either. I think people and the Government need to realise how difficult this is for the person and their families and give us access to the information we require at possibly the worst time of your life and treat dementia as the disease it is and not a nuisance . I like many others have come across so many brick walls when trying to get things done
Sandra
My mum was diagnosed with Lewy Body Dementia /Parkisonisms in March 2024 . Mum fell and was taken into hospital where she started having scary hallucinations . Mum would ring us in the middle of the night crying for us to help her as people were shooting at her and men were breaking in the windows . It
Was so horrible to see her so scared , nothing anyone said could calm her down . Eventually after lots of phone calls and continually pressing the OTs at the hospital we got mum home after three and a half weeks . We thought this would help calm her down and reassure her that she is safe , sadly this is not the case . Mums mood and perception of whats happening change continually , she sees people in her house , also animals . Some days she doesnt recognise her own home and keeps asking to go home . Mum cries for hours at a time and worst of all , she thinks that my dad , her husband of 62 years is her own father , who was a cruel and abusive man , and due to her confusion wont let my dad near her . This is becoming increasingly difficult as he is her main carer. Luckily they live next to me and my family so I am able to help with her care , which is almost 24 hour . Mum has carers come in and get her washed and dressed in the morning and evening , but dad and I put her to bed as she wont go when the carers come . My sister comes over as much as she can to sit with mum so dad can pop to town for shopping and to have a break . We are lucky that mums good friend comes into see her every day , but some days she doesnt always speak to her . It is a horrible disease and her symptoms change constantly , since diagnosis we have had to do our own research about LBD even though it is the second most common dementia . We suspected mum might have Parkinsons for a few years as her walking has slowly deteriorated over time , her hand writing has become unreadable and she stoops and shuffles , she also has had many falls most resulting in hospital visits . We had to wait 42 weeks to see a neurologist , after diagnosis we were not given any information about the Parkinson's or the Lewy Body , we as a family felt very alone and utterly overwhelmed , no one gave us as much as a leaflet to read . The most help has come from our GP , but nothing has been offered we have had to find everything out by ourselves . The Parkinson nurses are kind but we had to wait 8 weeks for them to contact us and that was only after many phone calls from us and eventually the GP rang them . Unfortunately when the Parkinson's nurse did come she said that she had no knowledge of the Lewy Body dementia . My mum has occasional good times , hours not days , her long term memory is still good and she knows who we all are except for confusing my dad with hers . Mum has always enjoyed
Watching tennis , football , cricket and speed way , now if it is on the tv she pays little or no attention to any of it . She also was an avid crossword and scrabble player , most of us didnt want to play her as she always won at scrabble . Her mental math has always been amazing and now she cannot make sense of even the smallest sums , I have to sort all her bills etc . My dad worries constantly about mum , he is unwell himself he has had bowel cancer and now has bladder cancer , he worries what is going to happen to mum ,, especially if she continues to confuse him with her father and wont let him near her . We are hoping our next visit to the neurologist will prove more enlightening and hope she will prescribe something to help with the hallucinations and delusions , it will be 8 months since she first saw mum ! Sadly there does not seem to be the interest or resources for dementia that there is in other diseases , even though the statistics say1 in 3 of us will get a form of dementia . To sum up , I can only describe the feelings of helplessness and loneliness that this illness spreads , the heartbreak of not being able to comfort mum or offer her some peace , and the constant looking for answers to reassure dad about the future . Lets hope that the government can see the need that is growing in our country for more structured help after dementia diagnosis and take steps to address the vacuum that now exists .
Was so horrible to see her so scared , nothing anyone said could calm her down . Eventually after lots of phone calls and continually pressing the OTs at the hospital we got mum home after three and a half weeks . We thought this would help calm her down and reassure her that she is safe , sadly this is not the case . Mums mood and perception of whats happening change continually , she sees people in her house , also animals . Some days she doesnt recognise her own home and keeps asking to go home . Mum cries for hours at a time and worst of all , she thinks that my dad , her husband of 62 years is her own father , who was a cruel and abusive man , and due to her confusion wont let my dad near her . This is becoming increasingly difficult as he is her main carer. Luckily they live next to me and my family so I am able to help with her care , which is almost 24 hour . Mum has carers come in and get her washed and dressed in the morning and evening , but dad and I put her to bed as she wont go when the carers come . My sister comes over as much as she can to sit with mum so dad can pop to town for shopping and to have a break . We are lucky that mums good friend comes into see her every day , but some days she doesnt always speak to her . It is a horrible disease and her symptoms change constantly , since diagnosis we have had to do our own research about LBD even though it is the second most common dementia . We suspected mum might have Parkinsons for a few years as her walking has slowly deteriorated over time , her hand writing has become unreadable and she stoops and shuffles , she also has had many falls most resulting in hospital visits . We had to wait 42 weeks to see a neurologist , after diagnosis we were not given any information about the Parkinson's or the Lewy Body , we as a family felt very alone and utterly overwhelmed , no one gave us as much as a leaflet to read . The most help has come from our GP , but nothing has been offered we have had to find everything out by ourselves . The Parkinson nurses are kind but we had to wait 8 weeks for them to contact us and that was only after many phone calls from us and eventually the GP rang them . Unfortunately when the Parkinson's nurse did come she said that she had no knowledge of the Lewy Body dementia . My mum has occasional good times , hours not days , her long term memory is still good and she knows who we all are except for confusing my dad with hers . Mum has always enjoyed
Watching tennis , football , cricket and speed way , now if it is on the tv she pays little or no attention to any of it . She also was an avid crossword and scrabble player , most of us didnt want to play her as she always won at scrabble . Her mental math has always been amazing and now she cannot make sense of even the smallest sums , I have to sort all her bills etc . My dad worries constantly about mum , he is unwell himself he has had bowel cancer and now has bladder cancer , he worries what is going to happen to mum ,, especially if she continues to confuse him with her father and wont let him near her . We are hoping our next visit to the neurologist will prove more enlightening and hope she will prescribe something to help with the hallucinations and delusions , it will be 8 months since she first saw mum ! Sadly there does not seem to be the interest or resources for dementia that there is in other diseases , even though the statistics say1 in 3 of us will get a form of dementia . To sum up , I can only describe the feelings of helplessness and loneliness that this illness spreads , the heartbreak of not being able to comfort mum or offer her some peace , and the constant looking for answers to reassure dad about the future . Lets hope that the government can see the need that is growing in our country for more structured help after dementia diagnosis and take steps to address the vacuum that now exists .
Amanda
This has crept up on me. I feel people I know now seem to avoid me . I don't get involved with things in the community like I used to. I put it down to age but really it's dementia.. I'm afraid to expose myself now or I've lost confidence . I dropped my reading group that I founded. I couldn't join in discussion as II had .not read the book. I can read the daily newspaper but can't concentrate to read a book. My father had dementia and was wandering the streets lost. He didn't recognise anyone. I'm terrified I will get like that.
Frances
My father was diagnosed with Mixed Dementia 8 weeks ago after we admitted him to hospital with delirium. Although the signs were there the GP’s thought he was ok. He has gone from being mobile at home to palliative end of life care in 2 months. I can not believe how quickly it has taken him and the cruel way it has robbed me and my family of a caring and wonderful father, Grandfather and Great Grandfather.
Katrina
My husband who is 87 has always been poor at remembering peoples names. His referral to the memory clinic was suggested during a routine annual check up at the surgery. He was diagnosed finally in 2020 with Alzheimer’s. I am his sole carer and our children all live at a distance. Ian enjoys walking and daily puzzles. He is still fairly independent. He is an only child and has been deaf for many years.
Shona
My wife Navamani is a retired Nursing Matron in a factory Hospital. she retired in 2006. She likes reading novels. she used to go to the public library and bring novals for reading. She under went eye cataract operation in the end of 2017 and she was not reading the novals for a month. she lost interest for reading the novels. in early 2018, my son who is a doctor took her to radiologist and MRI was taken and it revealed she is having Progressive dementia. She was living normal life till Jan 2022. She started complaining that she is not getting good sleep. I luckily found that a doctor associated with ARDSI is practicing in the city where we are living and i took her to the doctor. Now she is in taking the prescribed medicines. Her self care is still okay. I am taking care of her full time and also hired a home nurse to take care of her needs.
Narasimhan
I am on leave and I will finally leave and get
I half a mixed Dementia - Alzheimer’s Disease and Vascular Dementia. I'm 58 old and very fitness is pretty good. I've started going to my baths to keep more fit.
I know down the road it will get me whatever
I half a mixed Dementia - Alzheimer’s Disease and Vascular Dementia. I'm 58 old and very fitness is pretty good. I've started going to my baths to keep more fit.
I know down the road it will get me whatever
Kevin
My mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s last year. Which has been very hard as she has multiple other illnesses too. I was shocked that the support from the NHS was practically none existent, so I have now volunteered to support my employer to create dementia ambassadors within the organisation. I am a glass half full person, so would like to say where there’s life and time, there is hope - but so much more funding for research is needed.
My mum will be 103 in December She was diagnosed with dementia in her nineties and I cared for her until she was 100 years old. She is now in a care home as I could not manage on my own any longer. The cost is £7200 every 4 weeks which equates to the astronomical sum of £93600 per year! Mum has worked since she was 14 - since 1935. Apart from the lower level of carer’s allowance in the last few years she has never claimed anything from the state. She is not rich and her assets are dwindling very fast. She is ill and I would have hoped that by paying taxes all her life there would be some significant financial support for her.
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