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Although it only been a year since my wife was diagnosed with dementia we have felt that we are not important or an urgent case, Social Services keep tell us that they...
Lockdown seemed to be the downfall of Mums health. I...
As I write this I can’t help but cry my mom is now in a care home as we could not care for her safely at home. What an amazing human being she has four children of...
I was diagnosed about a year ago now. My wife and...
It took 5 awful years from my dad going to the GP about his memory, until getting a diagnosis of vascular dementia. He was told repeatedly that it was anxiety and...
I began to think that I wasn't able to remember my spelling , having always being proud of my good brain ! I saw a Doctor twice and each time I was told there was...
I went to a memory clinic from my doctors my antidepressant tablets did not help me and l started forgetting words, the doctor sent me to the memory clinic, and they...
My husband experienced a deluge of illnesses over the...
We noticed my husband’s short term memory loss during lockdown. He used to love cooking but gradually stopped making meals. Going to wrong cupboards for cups, salt...
Remember when
Do you remember when I was young ,...
My mum took a number of years to convince to go to the doctor, she knew, but didn’t want to know and was doing ok. Finally she went to the doctor to support me. She...
Diagnosed 3 years ago, Mementine prescribed not heard a thing since, living to die I guess? Is there any hope of any medical breakthrough?
Although it only been a year since my wife was diagnosed with dementia we have felt that we are not important or an urgent case, Social Services keep tell us that they are aware but not forthcoming with any help. it is sad that I no longer seem to be married to my wife of 44 years. each passing day i am just left to cope with the changes, worst of all is I cannot understand what she wants, While it may seem like there is a lot of help out there it can be confusing while the person who need help is classed as able to make their own choices...
Mike
Lockdown seemed to be the downfall of Mums health. I noticed more and more that she was forgetting or repeating things. There were such obvious signs. I finally persuaded her to see her Doctor which then created another battle. The Doctor offered no support, didn’t really believe me and I felt completely let down. Only after pushing for help after another hospital stay after falls, was I listened to. The hospital pushed through tests and results eventually proved positive. After trying to keep mum at home and struggling to get carers she is now in a care home. The hardest decision I have ever made. Never doubt you. You know your loved ones better than anyone. More should be done to prioritise this horrendous and soul destroying illness.
Hazell
As I write this I can’t help but cry my mom is now in a care home as we could not care for her safely at home. What an amazing human being she has four children of her own and fostered around 30 children and babies in her lifetime. We had to fight to get a diagnosis and help. More needs to be done to help with early diagnosis treatment and help for families caring for dementia patients they deserve and have the right to receive the best care.
Louise Cherry
I was diagnosed about a year ago now. My wife and son noticed I was repeating myself quite a bit and also forgetting things. I went to the doctors, who went through the usual names address etc. I didn't do too well, so had an appointment with a geriatrics specialist. I was then sent for a brain scan which confirmed my diagnosis. All in all it took a few months for me to be told I had alzheimer's. I was shocked as were my family. I'm not doing too bad right now and am still driving. I enjoy my singing which helps very much and I do jigsaw puzzles with my wife. I am taking Donepezil and have been on them for over a month now. Apart from initial side effects I seem to be ok on them.
Although understanding alzheimer's is getting better, I think more needs to be done to make people aware of the condition and that it can affect anyone.
Although understanding alzheimer's is getting better, I think more needs to be done to make people aware of the condition and that it can affect anyone.
Robert Evatt
It took 5 awful years from my dad going to the GP about his memory, until getting a diagnosis of vascular dementia. He was told repeatedly that it was anxiety and depression, not dementia. He couldn't complete the first memory test due to a panic attack, which cemented the view that it was anxiety, not dementia - dad was so down because he was so sure it was different. Referrals were initially lost and then took excruciatingly long to come back. When he finally got the diagnosis (5 years after first going to the GP and his 2nd round of assessments), it took 4 months to get a follow up letter confirming the diagnosis (also sent to his GP) that was so full of jargon and acronyms it was virtually unreadable. Those 5 years not knowing, and fighting to be believed that something was wrong (and that it wasn't anxiety) were so awful, I can't even think about it without crying.
Emily
I began to think that I wasn't able to remember my spelling , having always being proud of my good brain ! I saw a Doctor twice and each time I was told there was nothing wrong with my brain ! A year later the doctor told m I had Alzheimer's
Nathalie
I went to a memory clinic from my doctors my antidepressant tablets did not help me and l started forgetting words, the doctor sent me to the memory clinic, and they diagnosed me with early Alzheimer’s.since then the depression has got worse and very bad Anxiety l am very ill."t
Avril
My husband experienced a deluge of illnesses over the years that may have contributed to late diagnosis of mixed dementia. Sepsis after 3 misdiagnosed GP visits for cellulitis. An operation that went very wrong and left him with damaged groin nerves. Now I watch helplessly as his mind disintegrates in front of me.
The health service must put dementia at the top of the list of prevention input, alongside cancer. It's the cruellest illness I have ever come across.
The health service must put dementia at the top of the list of prevention input, alongside cancer. It's the cruellest illness I have ever come across.
Jess
We noticed my husband’s short term memory loss during lockdown. He used to love cooking but gradually stopped making meals. Going to wrong cupboards for cups, salt and pepper etc. He was an avid reader but now can’t remember what he has read. Cannot follow tv programmes and become restless with shows other than watching sport on the box. He repeats himself in conversation and cannot hold appointment dates and times. Becoming agitated and clock watching when going out. He was eventually diagnosed with early stage Alzheimer’s on 23 April 2024. But as of 15 May still has not been given any medication to help. Both his hearing and eye sight has deteriorated. The medical profession is slow acting and various departments show a complete lack of communication between each other. He is also registered disabled and has mobility issues. He is 82 swims a mile every morning trying to keep fit as he relies on his upper body strength to be able to walk with the aid of crutches for the past 40 years. Seems when you’re elderly no one cares. As his carer I rely on family for support as there other help is virtually nonexistent.
Heather
Remember when
Do you remember when I was young ,
My life had only just begun ?.
As I grew you cared for me
You loved me always
The stress I caused you
Moments of dismay at what I'd done
Who was standing there
It was you my mum
The youngest of them all
The most naughtiest of them all
But who was there it was you my mum
We have argued
We have not agreed
You always knew things before they even happened,
How ?
Yes you my mum,
As time goes on il remember all these times and you my mum
The lady who was house proud nothing out of its place , moaning at dad to do some jobs , everything just so ,
I know your still here yes you my mum , we sit and watch you disappearing before our eyes , slowly one by one something else that can't be done ,
We ask why why why
Why our mum
Why our nanny
We watch the most precious person to us all , slowly fading away , no fault of her own,
A cruel disease that has taken over our mum , Inside she is still there yes you our mum ,
We ask why is life so wicked to take away our mum ?
Outsiders have no idea as they stare , for your no longer there , they have no clue what we have go through,
Now it's our turn to look after the lady we call our mum , hold my hand and now I will be your guide , don't be afraid , we miss you mum ,
Do you remember when I was young ,
My life had only just begun ?.
As I grew you cared for me
You loved me always
The stress I caused you
Moments of dismay at what I'd done
Who was standing there
It was you my mum
The youngest of them all
The most naughtiest of them all
But who was there it was you my mum
We have argued
We have not agreed
You always knew things before they even happened,
How ?
Yes you my mum,
As time goes on il remember all these times and you my mum
The lady who was house proud nothing out of its place , moaning at dad to do some jobs , everything just so ,
I know your still here yes you my mum , we sit and watch you disappearing before our eyes , slowly one by one something else that can't be done ,
We ask why why why
Why our mum
Why our nanny
We watch the most precious person to us all , slowly fading away , no fault of her own,
A cruel disease that has taken over our mum , Inside she is still there yes you our mum ,
We ask why is life so wicked to take away our mum ?
Outsiders have no idea as they stare , for your no longer there , they have no clue what we have go through,
Now it's our turn to look after the lady we call our mum , hold my hand and now I will be your guide , don't be afraid , we miss you mum ,
Heidi
My mum took a number of years to convince to go to the doctor, she knew, but didn’t want to know and was doing ok. Finally she went to the doctor to support me. She had to have a brain scan and was referred to Memory Services which was a wait of a few months. She was diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment 2019 and went to some memory workshops with her husband. The Memory Services then closed her case.
During Covid mum deteriorated quickly and so we tried to get her re-diagnosed, she had to wait a year to be seen by memory services and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in the end of 2021. At this point her mobility had deteriorated and medication wasn’t advised as it would make her more unstable and likely to have falls. Mum died in March 2022, not from Alzheimer’s.
I’d like to see better diagnosis (I know it’s not an exact science so isn’t straightforward). I’d also like to see dementia nurses, like I have a Diabetes Nurse, with at least annual check-ups and tests and a central-point/person for all referrals and support that you might need. We spent time and heartache filling in forms for different agencies, being on waiting lists to try and get items to support and carers to support. Every agency has waiting lists, does their bit, then closes the case. Dementia is degenerative so you need a service that’s there for the long run. I wish I’d contacted Alzheimer’s Society at the start as they are the only agency that would keep checking in and seemed to understand.
My mum was a beautiful woman with a warm heart and a wonderful smile and I’m so lucky she was my mum and I’ll always miss her.
During Covid mum deteriorated quickly and so we tried to get her re-diagnosed, she had to wait a year to be seen by memory services and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in the end of 2021. At this point her mobility had deteriorated and medication wasn’t advised as it would make her more unstable and likely to have falls. Mum died in March 2022, not from Alzheimer’s.
I’d like to see better diagnosis (I know it’s not an exact science so isn’t straightforward). I’d also like to see dementia nurses, like I have a Diabetes Nurse, with at least annual check-ups and tests and a central-point/person for all referrals and support that you might need. We spent time and heartache filling in forms for different agencies, being on waiting lists to try and get items to support and carers to support. Every agency has waiting lists, does their bit, then closes the case. Dementia is degenerative so you need a service that’s there for the long run. I wish I’d contacted Alzheimer’s Society at the start as they are the only agency that would keep checking in and seemed to understand.
My mum was a beautiful woman with a warm heart and a wonderful smile and I’m so lucky she was my mum and I’ll always miss her.
Lynn
Diagnosed 3 years ago, Mementine prescribed not heard a thing since, living to die I guess? Is there any hope of any medical breakthrough?
martin
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